How To: Deal with Someone Who Viewed Your Profile But Didn’t Message You

When you log into your account on The Senior Dating Agency there is an option under ‘Account’ (in the top right hand corner of the page) to see who has ‘Viewed Me’. This feature allows you to see who has looked at your profile recently and is a great way to see who is showing an interest. However, if you cross reference the ‘viewed me’ section with your inbox you may notice that sometimes, there might be people who viewed your profile but didn’t actually follow it up with a message. This can leave you questioning yourself and asking ‘what didn’t they send me a message? What am I doing wrong?’. However, you needn’t worry because as with all things in life, there’s probably a good explanation for it.

They may have just joined: Remember when you first joined the site? After setting up your profile you went to take a look around and probably clicked on a fair few profiles with no intention of sending any messages just yet. Just in a ‘checking what’s out there kind of way’. You didn’t mean anything by it you just weren’t quite ready to start sending messages.

They might be shy: If someone has looked at your profile but not followed through with a message it could well be that they are shy. For one reason or another they’re just not ready to reach out and make the first move. They might be scared of rejection or…

They might be showing their interest: Sometimes people may just look at your profile to show you they are interested. In this case, the digital ice is broken and the ball is in your court. If you’re interested take advantage of that and send them a message.

They may still be a basic member: Don’t forget that as a free member you can browse the site and look at profiles but you can’t send messages. So if they’ve looked at your profile but you’ve not received a message from them it may well be that they can’t send messages just yet. So sit tight, you may receive a message once they’ve upgraded.

You may not be what they’re looking for: We’ve all done it; clicked onto someones profile because something has taken our interest only to read more and find out that actually, you didn’t have quite as much in common as you thought. It could be something as tiny as you live too far away from one another. Don’t take it personally and move on. There’s thousands more potential matches out there.

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How to… Use the ‘Who’s Near Me’ Facility!

The Senior Dating Agency now has an amazing new feature – the Who’s Near Me map, which lets you find members in the exact area where you live, work or spend your time, all as safely and securely as if you were just browsing a list of profiles.

So how do you use it?

Simply log into your account and you will see the new ‘Who’s Near Me’ option in the menu bar across the top of page. Select this and you will then be taken through to the interactive map which will be covered in lots of circles with numbers. This shows shows you how many singles are in which area.

Find singles in your area!

Zoom in to the bubbles that are of interest to you – so your area, areas that you visit regularly or areas that you would be happy to visit.

Zoom in closer to start viewing profiles

Click on the bubbles to view profiles and photos, send messages and winks, add favourites and much more, without ever losing your place on the map!

Find the singles that matter to you!

Use the filters to choose which members appear in your search based on their age and whether they have a photo.

Please note your exact location and the exact location of others will never be revealed. All locations plotted are approximate only.

How To… Compose an Ice Breaker

From your feedback we understand that it can be very time consuming searching through the thousands of dating profiles online but, that’s where the Ice Breaker comes in. You see, you can simply use our search facility to narrow down the type of person you’re looking for, for example – distance from you, age rang, interests, and so on – type your message and hit send. Once you’ve got your results back you can then compose one message and send it out to everyone who matched your search criteria. This is just a great way of introducing yourself and getting the right attention from the right people. (More on how to send an Ice Breaker)

Here at The Senior Dating Agency we often get asked about Ice Breakers and the key to writing a great one. So what should you say?

Well that really is up to you and what kind of first impression you would like to make. The best piece of advice we can give you is to not overthink your message, just try to relax and imagine how you would introduce yourself to someone you met offline. Here are a few Ice Breaker examples to help you get started:

“Hi I’m new to the site so looking to make some new friends and see where that takes me. We seem to have the same interests in common so take a look at my profile and if you like what you hear, send me a message. “

“Hi I’m new to the whole online dating thing, so be gentle with me. I’m quite an outdoorsy person and love taking long walks in the countryside with my dog. Although he’s great company I’m looking for a little more companionship in my life. If you think we’d get a long why not send me a message to say hi!”

“63 years young and have a zest for life. I love discovering new places, trying new foods, and making lasting memories. If this sounds like you too, why not send me a message and see if we hit it off”

“’I’ve finally taken the plunge and decided to sign up, I’m so excited to see what the site has to offer and look forward to meeting lots of new people. Take a look at my profile and send me a message if you think we’d hit it off”

Now that has given you some food for thought, don’t waste any more time. Hundreds of members near you are waiting to be contacted, so put fingers to keypad and compose your Ice Breaker today!

How to… Use the Ice-Breaker Facility

With so many new members joining The Senior Dating Agency every day, it could be easy to miss out on that person who is perfect for you. In the same respect, you wouldn’t want to think that your profile is getting lost or going unnoticed amongst the rest of the competition would you? That is why we offer the fantastic Ice-Breaker facility.

Sending an ice-breaker is the quickest and easiest way to introduce yourself to lots of potential mates and companions. Read on to find out everything you need to know about ice-breakers to get your online dating journey off to a great start, and to find out how to make the most of this facility.

It’s Free: You can send an ice-breaker even before you’ve upgraded your account to become a full member. All you have to do is upload a picture of yourself and complete your personal profile. You then have the opportunity to send one free message to ‘test the waters’, so to speak, and gauge what kind of response you receive back before making a commitment to upgrading your account.

Be selective: Before composing and sending your free ice-breaker we give you the opportunity to narrow down who it goes out to. Simply perform a search as you normally would by selecting what is important to you – whether that be interests, location, age and so on. Everyone showing up in your search results will receive your ice-breaker. Each time you alter your search criteria you will see exactly how many people your ice-breaker will be sent to.

Make it relevant: Try not to agonise over what to write too much as essentially your message should be short and punchy, with the ultimate aim of grabbing other people’s interest. A great tip is to treat an ice-breaker in a similar way to how you would introduce yourself to somebody in person. If in doubt, summarise your personal profile by taking key points and encouraging people to take a look at your full profile if they like what they hear.

Make it count: This is your one chance to shout about what’s great about you, and let’s face it, there’s a lot to shout about! You don’t get another chance to send an ice-breaker so make sure you get your first one spot on. If there’s anything that you think would make you stand out from the competition, include it, and if there’s anything that you think would grab sombody’s attention don’t keep it to yourself.

Check for errors: One of the most valuable pieces of advice that we can give you is to proof read your message, and then proof read it again! Not only does a poorly composed message look sloppy, it also gives off the impression that you can’t be bothered. Never underestimate the importance of good grammar and spelling and remember, first impressions DO count!

Lastly… remember that ice-breakers are there to give you the best start on your online dating journey as possible. They really are no different to introducing yourself to a group of people in the ‘real world’. In fact, the ice-breaker facility is there to do exactly what it says on the tin – break the ice!

Remember that an ice-breaker will be sent to more than one person so the key to your message is to avoid personalisation and to focus you! What makes you different, what makes you special, and what makes you stand out from the crowd? This is your chance to say ‘Hey, here I am and this is what’s great about me!’.

If people like what they read the ice-breaker will have successfully achieved it’s aim and people will respond with a direct, personal message. Chances are the people with whom you share similar interests with and who like the sound of you will reply and you can get to know them on and one to one level.

So there you have it, the essential guide on how to use the ice-breaker facility and get the most out of it. If you’d like more help or advice around using the ice-breaker do feel free to call our friendly Customer Care team on 01753271286, where we will be more than happy to help.

The Senior Dating Agency team.

How to… Upload a photo

Last month in our ‘How to’ section, we gave you our top tips for getting your profile just right. So now you’ve got that sorted it’s time to upload a photo. To help, we’ve put together this really simple guide to get your photo from your PC to your profile. So why not follow our helpful tips below and increase your chances of being contacted by up to 15 times.

1. On your account home page, next to the ‘Tell us more about yourself’ section, which of course you’ve already completed, you will see the ‘Show us what you look like’ option. Simply click on the ‘Upload A Photo’ button as shown below.

2. The box will then open up to reveal tips for what makes a great photo and give you the option to browse the photos that are already on your computer.

3. Once you click the ‘Browse’ button, and new window will open up on your screen directing you to select your photo from the correct location on your computer. In the example below you will see the photo is saved in the ‘My Pictures’ folder. Simply select the correct loaction depending on where you have saved your photo.

4. Once in the correct location where your photo is saved, simply click on the image you want to upload and then press open. We highly recommend that you upload a photo that is a clear, head shot of yourself, just like in our example below.

5. Once you have selected your image you will automatically be taken back to the original screen, where you will see a location URL in the white box. This will indicate that your photo is ready to be uploaded. Simply click the ‘Add Photo’ button as shown below.

6. Your photo has now been added to the system and has been sent off to be approved by our moderation team. You will see the message below, along with a watermark of what your photo will look like once it has been approved. Don’t worry, we usually have your photos approved within a couple of hours so you won’t be waiting too long.

7. If you click on the ‘Profile’ tab and then on the ‘Photo’ option, you will see all of your photo activity. You can see what photos you have waiting to be approved, you can delete photos, and you can also choose which photo you want to use as your profile photo once you’ve uploaded a few more. Don’t forget you can upload up to 10 photos of yourself once you become a full member, which is a great way to show off your personality a little more and show others what you like to do in your spare time.

So there you have it, it really is that easy to get your photo online. If you’re feeling a little more advanced you can also upload a photo via our mobile upload service, which allows you to send a photo straight from your mobile handset, and also a webcam facility, which will let you take a photo on your webcam and upload it directly. This is a great way to get an up-to-date photo of yourself on your profile.

And don’t worry if you’re having problems getting your photo on to your profile because we’re happy to help. You can either call us FREE on 01753271286 and one of our friendly representatives will talk you through the process on the phone, or you can send your photos to our scanning service. Simply pop your chosen photo in the post and send it to our headquarters in Windsor and we’ll do the work for you.

We hope this has been of some help to you, and remember, any problems at all-  just give us a call!

Thanks

The Senior Dating Agency team

How To… Complete Your Profile With Ease

So you’ve joined Senior Dating Agency and you’re being prompted to fill out those all important details and ‘sell’ yourself in that little box. You’re not sure where to begin and it can be very tempting to leave that bit until later. However, you’re online to meet new people so you need to be pro-active and make sure your profile is working for you.

Here at The Senior Dating Agency we see member profiles day in day out, and over the years we’ve developed a good eye for what works and what doesn’t. That’s why we want to share our knowledge with you to make sure that your profile can be the very best it can be. You can thank us later.

Not too long- The ideal length for your personal profile is between 5-6 lines. A small paragraph is sufficient to give others a little snap shot into your life and you as a person. The key is to write just enough information to generate intrigue and encourage people to want to message you. Anything else can be shared over private message with those people who you find you have a connection with.

What’s different about you- So you like walks in the park, socialising with friends, a glass of wine or two – don’t we all? Try to be more specific about your interests. Are you a member of any clubs or have any specific hobbies, is there a special place that you like to holiday each year, or do the grandkids keep you busy enough? This is your space to talk about you and what makes you different from the thousands of other people on the site.

Be Positive- Being positive through your words is the equivalent of smiling at a stranger in the street. Not only is it infectious but it also makes you more approachable and helps people warm to you. So ditch any negativity about past relationships, being lonely, or online dating being a final resort. We are naturally drawn to positive people, so stay upbeat and embrace your time online.

Show your funny side– Just as we are naturally drawn to positive people, we are also naturally attracted to people with a sense of humour. We’re not talking about knock knock jokes (although that can break the ice) but instead, inject a bit of humour into the way you write about yourself, for example, ‘Are you the type of person who enjoys eating out? Good, because I’m a terrible cook’. Remember, you’re not writing a CV you’re trying to find someone with whom you can enjoy life, so don’t take yourself too seriously!

Read it back-Finally, read your profile back and ask yourself ‘if I was reading this on someone else’s profile, would I want to contact them?’ If the answer is yes, then congratulations, you’ve written yourself a successful profile!

So get your creative thinking caps on, and start making your profile work for you. Remember, online all you have are your words, so why not make each one count.

Thanks

The Senior Dating Group

 

How To…Make The Most Out of Online Dating

In later life family, friendships and relationships are often more important to us than they have ever been. It is important that we seek out and maintain these relationships in our life so that we can enjoy our retirement fully.

Online Dating in the later years is becoming more and more popular as it proves itself to be a great way to meet people in later life. However, just because it’s a great way to meet people it doesn’t mean you can afford to be lazy. So to make sure you get the most from your time on The Senior Dating Agency, we’ve put together our top tips.

Get your profile ‘write’ – Writing your profile can often be the hardest part of online dating. How do you sum up your personality in a tiny box? That’s why you’ll often see a lot of ‘I’ll do this later’ and ‘I don’t know what to write’. The key is strike a balance between writing enough information to generate interest and make people want to contact you, but not too much as to give prospective suitors information overload. This is your chance to tell others what’s great about you, what makes you tick and what you’re looking for.  Don’t be afraid to hold some information back so you can choose who you want to share more with.

Photo- After your profile, your photo is the second most important section on your profile. Ultimately having a photo is what makes you stand out from the next person and will increase your chances of being contacted by 15 times. Just like you, people like to put a ‘face to a name’ so make sure your profile photo is a clear, and is an up to date head-shot of yourself. Don’t forget you can upload up to ten photos so you can add additional pictures later down the line.

Be polite- You will find most people on mature dating sites will be in the same boat as yourself. Whether that be widowed, separated or never married, they too will have their own reason for joining the site. Be respectful of different backgrounds and circumstances and if someone who doesn’t quite match your requirements does contact you, be sure to respond in a manner that you would like to be responded to if the shoe was on the other foot. A simple message of well wishes is better than no response at all.

Make use of the facilities- The features on dating sites, especially The Senior Dating Agency, are there to help you make the most of your membership. Take the online dating diary as an example. This facility is a place where you can really get your personality across and encourage people to contact you. Whether you want to write about your dating experience or you just want to tell people about your day. It’s your diary and your space to let others get to know the real you.

Go Offline- Meeting up with someone you’ve been talking to online can cause a mixed bag of feelings. Apprehension, nerves and excitement, are all par of the course when arranging to meet someone new but remember, that’s the whole reason you’re online. As long as you are sure you are ready, you’re comfortable with the meeting arrangements and someone knows where you are going, then take the plunge enjoy the new experience.

So there you have it. The Senior Dating Agency’s top tips for making sure that your dating experience is a great one! We’ll be back next month to bring you more top tips but until then why not log into your account and put some of our them to good use.

All the best,

The Senior Dating Agency team