Dating Dilemmas: Should I make the first move?

Hello The Senior Dating Agency.com,

I’ve recently joined your mature dating service and to be honest I haven’t got off to a great start. It might be my own fault because I haven’t sent any messages but, truth be told, I find the whole process somewhat daunting. It’s usually the gentleman who makes the first move but I’ve never done this online dating thing before so I don’t know if the same rules reply. Should I be sending the first messages and if so, how do I know what to say? All this online dating is new business to me.

Please help otherwise I fear I will never get anywhere? Tim

Hi Tim and thank you for your question, as I think it’s a problem that many people using mature dating sites for the first time encounter. You finally get to grips with dating in the ‘real world’ and then you find yourself online dating with a whole new rule book to follow. However, rest assured that online dating really isn’t that different from the more conventional ways of dating that you are used to. In some ways online dating can be a little easier as it enables you to really get to know someone before committing to meeting them in person.

So to tackle your first question – should you be sending the first message, or in other words, making the first move? This is really up to you. There are no rules when it comes to sending a first message so we wouldn’t say that it’s down to anyone to make the first move. The only advice we would give you is if you like someone go for it, they’ll never know if you’re interested if you just hide behind your computer screen. Even better, we would advise you to use our ‘Ice Breaker’ facility as soon as you’ve completed your profile. An Ice Breaker is exactly what it sounds like – a message which allows you to break the ice. We’ve got more information about our Ice Breaker facility over here in our mature dating ‘How To’ section. In answer to your second question – ‘how do you know what to say’ – why not take a look at some of our Ice Breaker examples to help you get started.

Lastly, don’t let the fear of rejection hold you back and definitely don’t wait for someone else to make the first move. Be pro-active, put yourself out there, and start making new connections today.

We hope that helps you Tim,

The Senior Dating Agency